This is Anne... Complete and Real
Published on March 2, 2004 By Tangled Wishes In Life Journals
Sometimes I feel utterly and completely alone in this world.

That's a really sad-sounding comment, I know, but I'm not sad... Being sad and being alone are two different feelings, and right now, I don't feel sad, just alone, confused, and lost.

The problem is, I don't really feel like I fit in in this world. It's not that I don't have friends, because I do, and they're wonderful caring etc. It's also not that I'm a loser or anything (yes you can have be a loser and still have friends). I've always been more or less popular, and I can confidently say that I'm pretty cool. Whatever that means, I guess.

It's more like, I don't feel like I totally fit into this whole era, time, whatever you want to call it. It's not like I wear totally weird, unstylish clothes--I feel like I have a pretty cool sense of style--I wear what I like and I like what I wear. And I have nice hair, and makeup abound... But that doesn't really make anyone fit in to the whole real scheme of things. It might have mattered in high school, but I never really cared about all that anyway. I'm not overly political, but I strongly believe in gay rights and legalizing marijuana, but I'm not really all that liberal, or conservative either, because I like drinking, partying, having sex, pretty much enjoying your life and your body for what they are... I'm not overly religious, in fact, I really don't know very much about God at all. I know bible stories, and that kind of stuff, but I guess in grade school they don't teach you much about what God is and what he really means, but more about Jonas and Jesus and the fish, and the disciples, and stuff. Not what you really need to know when you're older, when you're questioning things.

I just don't know where I fit in. I mean, read my record collection! And my CDs are predominantly oldies and classic rock, with a mix of weird things. In fact, that's what I am am... a mix of weird things.

I just wish I knew where I fit in. I wish there was someone, anyone, out there who has beliefs and ideas and likes like I do, so we could talk to each other, and discuss things, as intellectual peers who share a lot of my opinions. Or any of them, really.

It makes me feel very very alone. I know a few people who I click with very well, and we share some opinions, but it's all limited. God, I don't know.

The one thing I do know is I AM alone. I'm not only searching my own soul, but searching for others, and so far I haven't found a single thing.

Maybe I am destined to be alone, forever.

Comments
on Mar 02, 2004
Unfortunately, most bloggers on Joeuser understand this emotion. Maybe everyone does at some point in their lives. You may be alone, but you're not alone in feeling this way.

Trinitie
on Mar 02, 2004
It's true. Everyone needs to feel this way at some point...I truly believe that. Too many people define who they are by what group the belong to...I'm guilty. I think we need really DECIDE who we are first, though, before we join our groups.

That's kinda fuzzy: here's what I mean.

You are not your clothes. You are not your hair. You are not your friends. You are not your eduaction. You are YOU. By feeling like you don't belong, but UNDERSTANDING that you don't belong you are free to become who you want to be. The tough part is deciding who that is.
on Mar 02, 2004
Brilliant, but hard all the same.

I wish I knew how to do it all.

I wish I could change the world. Or maybe just my environment. I suppose, the saying is if you don't like it, get out, so some day I will.
on Mar 02, 2004
Span.

I dont like it when you are in moods like this.

You are not alone. Everyone our age really does have a tough time trying to fit in, but just realise that it really is everyone, and you are no exception.

You are a beautiful person, and i will bet my house that you wont be alone. You simply have too much love to give!!!

on Mar 02, 2004
And here it is:

I LOVE YOU MUGZ! You rock my world. Really!!!!

XOXOXOXO right back atcha
on Mar 02, 2004
Try this: introduce yourself without using anything to do with vocation, friends, family, education, etc...

See where that gets you.

Trinitie

*Muggaz, I've been wanting to ask this for a while. Are there different spellings for certain words in Australia? IE=Realise?
on Mar 03, 2004
I have no idea if Mugz will answer but intelligent Anne who has read about 30 million British books says:

Yes. England spells realize with an S and center like centre, etc etc etc. Lots of funny spelling. Canada does too.

on Mar 03, 2004
Trin,

As the ever Intelligent English Prude Ann pointed out, we do spell things differently. hehe (j/k Ann - u know i luv ya )

We spell Mom as Mum. Where you have Z's we mostly have S's... my favorite example is the word colour.. or as you would say.. color... What the devil were you thinking?

BAM!!!
on Mar 03, 2004
PRUDE?!?!?!

LOL!!
on Mar 03, 2004
Muggaz is correct, Australian English is more in line with English English
on Mar 05, 2004
You reflect an unhealthy, Princess Diane syndrome. Find a clearer prism to look through; the fresh colors will paint a rosier picture and you should feel better about yourself. UNTANGLE!
on Mar 05, 2004
UNTANGLE!


the most prophetic statement i have seen about you Ann!

BAM!!!
on Mar 05, 2004
lol I know I know. I do my best. This really wasn't a depressed blog. It was more... reflect.
Anne
on Mar 05, 2004
"my favorite example is the word colour.. or as you would say.. color... What the devil were you thinking?"

Hey now!!! I'm a yank and I spell colour, colour, and Saviour, Saviour. I spell favorite like that though, do you spell favourite this latter way? Ohh, and somewhere (don't remember) someone (don't remember) had a blog where they spelled sometimes, sometime.. or maybe that was just a grammar mistake, but they did it twice, what's up with that?
on Mar 05, 2004
Hey, here's an odd one: here in Devon (UK), people say "Where's he to?" instead of "Where is it?". e.g. if they wanted to know where (random example) the book they were reading was, they would say "I've lost my book. Where's he to?". Strange or what?! Sorry about the example, it really was crap

Anne, even though having never met you or really corresponded, I can say that we probably have more in common than you might think. I'm sure I don't fit in, and people find me odd! Although I'm sure I'm not actually that odd, it's just how I percieve people responding to me. Make sense? Roll a big one, then you'll feel better. Wish I could right now!! lol

H