How many people out there have really cared about someone, didn't tell them, and lost them to another? How many of you have fallen for a friend, cared about them for ages, but were always too scared to let them know, too scared to find out what they thought, and lost them altogether? I'm sure that's happened to many of us. It's happened to me, in more ways than one. And when my dear friend Joe died, without knowing how much I appreciated him and loved him as a wonderful friend, I vowed that I would never be afraid to tell people how I feel again. I can't risk that, because it honestly IS the worst feeling in the world---losing someone you love without telling them that you loved them. And death is irreversible.
Nearly everyone knows the pain of losing someone to someone else, losing someone you care about without them knowing it, and it sucks.

So my problem is, I'm really starting to like this guy that I know. He's great, he's fun to be around, he's good looking, he likes good music, he's really nice, and he's flirtatious. I like him, and I really can't tell whether he likes me or not. I am really good at picking up people's emotions and feelings, and all that stuff. Usually it depends on whether I care or not, if I respond. So it pisses me off, not being able to read him, and I won't tell him how I feel about him if I don't know if he's going to laugh in my face or not... Jeez! So much trouble.

But anyway I do like him, we've hit it off really well, and now I'm just scared and mad that if he doesn't know that I like him, he won't give me a chance, and will find someone else. He's very cute, he could find someone else if he wanted to. That's what I'm scared of. And if someone else were interested in me, and I had no idea if he was interested in me, too, then I would probably just move on, always wondering, but never knowing. I don't want to be in that position. I don't want to go through that, always wondering what might have been had I said something. And what if this is really important? What if this could be one of my good relationships? Either way, I'll give it at least another week before I make a decision. But I just need to know what to do.

Should I tell him how I feel, and risk all that? Or should I wait until I know for sure that he does or does not like me, risking losing him to any other girl?

And what if he's just playing with me? Or what if I tell him I like him, and he doesn't even want to be friends with me, because it's uncomfortable, or something? What if?

What should I do?