develope a jaded sense of beauty!

Trinitie

hey tangled, how yooooooooooooou doin'?

btw, you're not the only one who thinks they could look better. i haven't done any real physical activity for months...

I don't know how many men find women with developed abdominal muscle sexy. Personnaly, I think that women should be a little more curvy that too flat. As a general advive You should think about revealing your own and personnal beauty instead of trying to fit other standard.

let me explain, here in UK, you see the friday eve full of young lady all dressed the same, showing the more flesh they can, regardless the way they look, and it is quiet horrible, because not everybody can actually look good like this. nevertheless they just try to imitate pop fashion, they fail.'
In france, ladyies tend to develop their own style, showing not too much, not too less, and in agreement with their shape and taste. it is so much better..

Anyway if you prefer fitting in a standard, I wish you good luck!

I totally hear you.
I feel the same way, most of the time.
It's a standard put forth by the fashion industry. (That's what I think.) Models have become
the "look" for all to achieve. No matter how unhealthy it looks. (some look very unhealthy)
And your right, you shouldn't worry about what others think. That's the real challenge.
I struggle with it everyday!
Anyway, good luck with fitting into your Ralph Lauren swimsuit!

I say we go back to the Renaissance Age, because I personally like Strong and Tall women. During the Renaissance you were beauitful if you had curves. Well, I shouldn't say that should I? I say, be what you wanna be.

I know I shouldn't want to try to conform to standards. I'm glad I have creativity in the way I dress and stuff, but still. It does suck a lot. It's hard to be gorgeous to myself if I don't feel gorgeous to anyone else. It's all a vicious cycle. And I know you're supposed to love yourself before anyone else can love you.

I know it all. It doesn't make it any easier!!!

I do fit in my RL swimsuit, I just look all jiggly and stuff! LOL that sounds all wrong. I'm not completely happy with my body right now. I have been before. I just have to do work to be happy again.

~Anne

Hey Anne, are you the one that quoted India Arie in a blog or comment. Try listening to "Video" if you've got it... it makes me feel better about myself.

"... I ain't built like a supermodel, but I learn to love myself unconditionally because I am the queen...when I look in the mirrior the only one there is me; every freckle on my face is where it's supposed to be. And I know what God created; didn't make no mistakes on me. My feet, my thighs, my lips, my eyes, I'm lovin' what I see"

Smile!!! Cheerio

ah, Sarah, what a wonderful song. I , too, love that one, as well as a few more of hers.

Trinitie

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I am so sick of this crap!!!! It doesn't matter how you look, as long as you are comfortable with how you feel. If you want to lose the weight, go ahead, but only do it because YOU want to. Not because you are worried what other people think...

I am going insane here...

BAM!!!

Don't fret; you'll make that all important summer fit into your new bathing suit! Cheers.

I have a friend who is overweight by any standard. She is always being hit on by guys. This what she does. She wears nice clothes that fit a little tight. She has blonde hair that is always groomed. She wears makeup with eyeliner on the bottom. She is friendly to everyone and has that fliracious look. She is pretty but not beautiful. So if you want what she has, then don't leave the house without fixing your hair, your makeup and dressing well. In addition, learn to flirt. I don't know if it is worth the hassle of having a bunch of guys hanging around but it works for her.

Attitude is everything.  I know a lot of "not so thin" women who have great social lives.  If *you* have a problem with yourself, everyone else will, too.  Wear clothes that fit you well- don't worry about the size.  Stay at a healthy weight for health reasons, not aesthetics.  Only 3% of the population looks like a super model, so don't worry about it.  On the flip side, if you see that you continue to gain weight, start paying attention.  Not being toned is different than continually gaining weight.  For what's its worth, most men don't really find models sexy.  Most of the time, I have heard men call them "scary" more than sexy.  There is nothing wrong with some feminine curves.  If men didn't like curves, the song "I like big butts" would have never been so popular

You guys make me feel good! I mean, it's not like you're complimenting me, but it's like, you tell me to be happy with myself. Which is the most important. The golden rule. I am feeling pretty happy with myself... Probably because I'm doing Pilates every day and the sun is shining and I'm not worrying about a date. I want to comfortable in my skin, and I know that it might take me a little while to learn to love my body more, but that's okay. I've got nothing but time

~Anne